Saving a Relationship - Addiction |
Addiction is by no means a disease and it can be overcome, but the desire to do so
must come from the person suffering from the destructive behavior. Prior to
attempting any relationship rehab efforts the addiction must be dealt with first and
foremost. If self destructive behavior is present in your relationship, it is
imperative that you understand that the addiction has nothing to do with what you
did or did not do in the relationship. Your partner has chosen to avoid dealing
with the underlying emotional pain of family dysfunction, and has selected a
compulsion or substance to mask it. There are some different things you can do to
encourage your partner to get the help needed to overcome their addiction, but
ultimately it must be their choice. You see, strangely enough you partner views
his addictive behavior as a solution to his issues, rather than it being problematic
behavior. Therefore, the moment you start chastising him for his actions you will
be speaking an entirely different language. Instead of berating him for his
behavior, you will find that stepping back from it and refusing to enable it will
deliver more favorable results. You see, it is only when the negatives of the
behavior begin to out way the positives of it that they will decide to end it! If you
need help with addiction, or would like more information, feel free to visit my
website below.
Overcome Addiction
Best wishes,
David Roppo
Relationship Coach
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