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Perhaps the secret to happiness lies in discovering your true self and how
that realization relates to creating a better balance between all of
life’s demands including work, family, community and self. I believe
the secret to accomplishing this begins with trying not to control
everything in our lives but, we do try, don’t we! Name one thing in
your life right now that in the blink of an eye couldn’t be changed, lost,
destroyed or swept away!!! Material things, employment, and even
relationships can all change! So, why do we fight so frantically to
hoard and control things? These things aren’t yours, they are only on
loan!! And, what about the relationships in your life, do you try to
control them as well? Does this mindset create the happiness in your
life that you desire? You cannot control any of these things so please
stop trying.
There is one thing that you can control though, your
thoughts! This is the one and only thing that you can control and it
affects your future far more than you can imagine. However, most of
us are not mindful of our thoughts. Instead we mindlessly run day
after day on auto pilot. We wake to go to work, often skipping
breakfast in a rushed state of mind. We work all day, drink to much
coffee or soda and fail to eat nutritious food, then make are way
home to face a tired stressed partner and or children.
That is not how it is meant to be! Why are we not waking up refreshed, full of energy,
getting some exercise and eating a nutritious breakfast and arriving at
work relaxed and ready to work efficiently? Why are we not leaving
work at a reasonable hour so we can prepare a nutritious meal,
spend time with the family or friends and retire at a decent hour?
What has happened to us? Have we lost control of who we are and
why we are here? Have we become a group of self centered beings
selfishly serving our own personal agendas?
In this modern life, have our egos taken over completely? We learn from a very young age to
build an ego and live our lives through it. But the ego has no integrity
or moral values. The ego is fear based and will invoke scarcity
thinking, hoarding and actions born out of fear.
If we are to create balance in our lives we must face our egos and
look into ourselves. It is there and there alone that we will find our
true nature, our true self. The true self acts out of love not fear as the
ego does. Generally when we face a challenge the ego will shout
about how unfair life is, which causes us to adopt a victim mentality.
On the other hand the true self will see challenges in life for what they
really are, a learning experience. The true self will realize the
importance of standing up to the challenge and being prepared to
endure whatever pain and suffering that challenge holds. Are you a
victim? Are you blaming others for making your life difficult? Make no
mistake about it, where you are right now in your life is a product of
your decisions and the thoughts which you have projected. You are in
this place for a reason! How could you be anywhere else? Now you
can learn your lessons and grow from them, forging a path for a more
balanced life full of abundance and love. Or, you can continue to be a
victim and blame others for your misfortune while you sit back have
another glass of wine and continue to attract the same type of misery
in your life! So, which will it be warrior or victim?
Your life is in your hands
Your life is in your hands, whether you want to admit it or not. Your
actions and thoughts in the here and now control the outcome in your
future. So, if something jumps up from the sidewalk and bites you in
the bum, it’s purely of your own manifestation. Understand that we
live in a vast universe which connects us all. Each of us is but a mere
drop of water that makes up a great ocean. Therefore, what one drop
does effects the greater whole. Whatever you put forth you will attract
back into your life. So be careful what you toss into the wind!!!
As we get caught up in the stresses of life, we develop a separatist attitude
which is fostered by our ego. Think about it, have you ever felt that
you need to grab all that you can before someone else gets it? I’m
willing to bet you have at one time or another. This type of scarcity
mentality separates us all and is the quickest way to bring pain and
suffering to your life! Here’s the paradox; if you hoard things, are
unkind, unloving and uncompassionate that is what you will get in
return. If you put forth kindness, generosity, compassion, forgiveness
and love these are the very things you will attract in your life!!!
Be mindful of your thoughts
Being mindful of ones thoughts does take some practice but, with the
correct information and a little perseverance you’ll be on your way to
a life of positive thinking. What thoughts do you have right now that
serve others well and what is wasteful and even harmful to others?
As you discover your true self you will automatically begin to mindfully
watch your thoughts. So, finding your true self is essential to the
process. As your true self begins to come forth the ego will take a
back seat and the fear will leave. No longer will you act from fear but
from love. A great way to accomplish this is through meditation.
There are many different types of meditation. So, which one you
choose is really not important. If you are not comfortable with the
concept of meditation prayer will work as well. The end result is
what’s important not the method. So, choose the method that’s most
comfortable to you.
As you begin practicing mindfulness make an effort to offer a kind word
or one act of generosity everyday. If you begin to search for these opportunities
they will soon be attracted to you. From time to time you will find yourself having negative thought
patterns. Even though this is quite normal do your best to
immediately cancel these thoughts. If you find this continues to
plague you, try using some positive affirmations. This can help bring
your focus back to a positive way of thinking.
Life wasn’t meant to be so serious
For heaven sake, don’t take yourself so serious all the time! And,
slow down!! Try to focus on the little things. These are the things that
are the most fulfilling in life and bring happiness to us. And, who said
that you are too old to laugh, have fun or be young at heart? When
we slow life down we automatically tend to look at the little things in
life. How about telling your child a funny story that makes him or her
smile, or a sweet romantic gesture towards your partner that shows
them how much you care. When we go through life full speed ahead
we lose site of the little things, don’t we? So, slow down, laugh, live
and love!!!
Trust
First, to really embrace the concept of living life according to your true
self you must quiet your mind and learn to trust the flow of life.
Everything will be ok. Stop worrying about the future. You see the
future is not here yet. In fact, you may be affecting your future by
worrying so in the present. Remember, “You are what you think”. So,
if you are constantly living a life of worry you will attract more of the
same. Often, a looming problem sits in your mind, causing you
stress. For every problem, there is a solution. However, most of the
time we don’t see the solution because we are so clouded by stress
and anxiety. Now I am not saying that you don’t have to take some
action or set the wheels in motion. The question is what action should
you take or what wheels should you set in motion? Trust and the
solution will be there for you and you will see it. In other words,
believe it and you will see it! Ask for a solution and it will appear. But,
it’s never blunt and always subtle. Try praying for a solution or if you
wish to utilize meditation, I would suggest Jappa Meditation. If you
would like additional information about Jappa Meditation feel free to
contact me.
Intent
A powerful word indeed, far more powerful than you may imagine. As
I mentioned previously, our thoughts in the here and now affect our
future. Therefore, if we intend to attract something in our lives and it
is truly heartfelt, we will attract it in our lives. Put the universal law of
attraction into play in your life. Give it try and see. But, you must truly
believe!!!
The purpose of life is to be happy and happiness can be found!
Best wishes,
Best wishes,
David Roppo
Relationship Coach
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