| Overrowing the Relationship Boat |
Are you attracting the love that you want from your current
relationship or are you trying to control your relationship
by over rowing the boat! You know, many of us try and control
everything in our lives and our relationship is no exception.
OK, name me one thing in your life right now that can't be changed
or whisked away in the blink of an eye! You can't can you? So,
why is that we frantically attempt to control our relationship?
Does this really give you the love affection and romance that
you desire or is it only making your partner resentful angry
and more distant? How many times do you try to take control of
things, try to help or rescue your partner without being asked
to do so? And, how often does it result in an unappreciative
slap in the face from your partner? If this is the case then
you may be over rowing the boat!!!!! the idea of a relationship
is to share your life with someone, not control their's!!! Your
partner needs to feel good about himself. In essence they need
to be there own person!! You are in this together and if they
need help or need rescuing they will ask for it!! So, try and
relinquish your control and surrender!!!
Don't help unless they ask you to help
Don't offer a solution unless asked for one.
Don't rescue them from a situation unless you are asked to.
Don't do everything for your mate.
Do listen and be understanding
Do some self reflection and learn to completely love yourself.
Do complement your partner in a way that allows them to be the
person they are.
Remember, to attract what you want from your partner you must
become the very thing you wish to attract!!!
Best wishes,
David Roppo
Relationship Rehab for Women
724-203-4575
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